You don't know how bad you are until you're married

• Nothing reveals the sinfulness of humanity like marriage parenting                

  Before I was married, I knew I was broken. But I had no idea the extent of my brokenness until I had a family of my own.
  The gift (and the curse) of family is that you can't fake it with them. We can fake kindness, generosity, mercy and forgiveness with others because we only have to fake it for a set period of time. However, with my wife and children I could never fake those emotions because I would have to fake them for an infinite amount of time. My wife and kids are always there. I can't run to an empty room and hide — they will find me. I can't take a day off and say, "I'm not going to be your husband or father today." The roles are 24/7 and so they see my true character.
  And it is often ugly. (See: Blessed Are the Married Who Mourn)
  But this is the gift of marriage. Our true natures are revealed and we have the opportunity to truly change our hearts. The problem with faking life is that we can deceive ourselves into thinking we aren't that bad. However, unless we know the depth of our problem, we can't truly change. Marriage and parenting provide us the opportunity to change because it reveals to us our great need for change.
  There are many areas where marriage and parenting reveal our need, but three specific areas are the most common. (See: Why We Are Afraid to Change)

• Marriage and parenting reveal our

• 1. Pride

  We are so prideful we don't even recognize the amount of pride we have. It's impossible for us to fully appreciate its magnitude unless it is revealed to us. Marriage and parenting require a level of humility which clashes with our pride showing us how arrogant we are. (See: Pride, The Only Enemy of Marriage)

• 2. Selfishness

  We want our way. Even the most laid-back, easy-going person desires to have things done their way. Marriage requires us to submit our desire to another. Parenting requires us to put our children's best interests before our own. Both will reveal a depth of selfishness within our own hearts which we did not even know existed.

• 3. Insecurities

  We are needy people. We are broken and because of our brokenness we attempt to protect our hearts. Yet marriage and parenting require us to invest our hearts. We can't keep them hidden and be an effective spouse or parent. Both marriage and parenting show how insecure we are. No matter the aura we give at work or the reputation we have among others, we are all insecure people and the intimacy of marriage and parenting reveal those insecurities. (See: Never Try to Prove Yourself)
  Marriage and parenting can reveal many things about us which we did not know, but our pride, selfishness and insecurities are the most obvious. When these things are revealed, we have the opportunity to change.